Here's a mix question for you. How do you get a nice bright mix without it attacking your ears? I really want that bright presence, but without feeling like tiny ice picks are attacking my ears!

Here's my example, please see 'When the Sun Goes Down' on the below link:
http://www.taximusic.com/hosting/home.php?userid=61999
And compare it to Ed Sheeran's Thinking Out Loud:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lp-EO5I60KA
Thinking Out Loud sound sooooo comfortable to listen to, yet still has that presence. How do I get there from my mix?
Have I added too much 2-5k?
Is it just because I have listened to my mix 1000 times, and my ears are now tired of hearing the same frequencies...?
Cheers!
Steve