Just when you thought they were "grown ups"

[circlestar]

Thank you Debra! You know your post makes ABSOLUTE sense to me and it helps me to approach this in a completely different way. Thank you again and again!

[suzdoyle]

Good insights on this thread. I would add that unresolved emotional issues that get triggered often are expressed at the age (and skill level) at which those issues were originally experienced; e.g., someone who felt betrayed at the age of 6 would likely, as an adult, express their reactions to betrayal as a six year old would (until they work their way through the issue).I also agree that conflict more often arises from unspoken agreements, than from spoken ones. ,Suz