Dec 17, 2008, 4:11pm, claire wrote:I was born and raised in New York. We're often blunt and to the point, so you can imagine how much fun I have in Nashville, Tennessee where everyone has to talk to you about the weather and their mama and the dog and the Titans and all you wanted to do was get your groceries and get out of Kroger, for heaven sake but you can never let 'em see that you're ready to run screaming out into the night...That said, New Yorkers are actually very warm, caring people. We really do know our neighbors and we really do talk to people, contrary to popular stereotypes. Claireoriginally of Brooklyn, New YorkYeah, but Southerners have their flaws too. We were born and bred to be overly polite, (even though we don't practice that all the time) but if you piss us off, we'll shoot ya. Southerners can be clannish and closed off to anything they perceive as different from their way of life. And yeah, they are talkers....like you, I just wanna get my groceries and leave the store with nothing more than a 'see you later.'I always have trouble when I visit Boston (my husband is from Boston, you can imagine the cultural shift, hehe)....those peeps there will say, 'just be direct.' But that's a part of who we are down here....we've learned to sugar coat our words....but listen hard enough, and you'll hear our disapproval.For instance, I always say that a Southerner can say anything remotely disparaging about a person as long as they end the offending sentence with the phrase, 'bless their heart.'With all my politeness, (or lack of sometimes) I've actually pissed some of my fellow Southerners off because even I tend to be more direct....my Bostonian husband has had that effect on me after all these years.I've come a long way after all these years....from saying, "may I use your restroom" to 'where's the crapper?"I for one, like those "Yankees"....I married one. I find them to be friendly and warm as well....I just think it depends upon the people you meet....there are unfriendly Southerners down here too....despite the stereotypes of Southerners all being warm and hospitable.BTW, I owe folks PMs...but I've been so pressed for time lately...I'll answer them ASAP.