Songs Stuck In Your Head!

[anne]

For real? That sucks.People like that should be shot.

[ernstinen]

Aug 31, 2008, 4:14pm, horacejesse wrote:It was a bad experience as I eventally became convinced I had lost my mind. I was dreaming up a revenge on those neighbors when they were evicted and I did not have to think of them anymore. Good riddance. Woo, baby! Sounds like what I experience with My neighbor!My wife is currently in bed crying like a baby over our friend next-door. She's a basket case. I don't know what to do. We can't move, we can't rent our place due to this psychotic.Maybe we'll CAMP for awhile in the mountains! --- Yea, THAT'S the ticket!!!!! Anyone want to cat-sit and enjoy a condo with 2 pools, a jacuzzi tub, and views to die for during early September for FREE?*****************************************BTW, my latest "song" is "Low Rider" by WAR. They play that OVER and OVER on L.A. radio. I like it, BUT --- Ern

[suzdoyle]

Man, oh, man, Ern -- what a challenging situation. Mental illness is a tricky thing to deal with, because the person's reality feels so real to them, and they are often unaware that what feels normal to them is often very dramatic and spills over into the lives of others . . . often their pain is so big that that is all they can see and feel (hence the inability to think about how they impact others).So how do you take care of yourselves when you have a hurricane living next door? Here in our town we have a group called the Alliance for the Mentally Ill, which helps friends and family (and neighbors) of those with mental health issues deal with things. Is there such a group in your town? They might have some ideas about what options you might have.Here's a link to the national site:http://www.nami.org/I had an incredibly talented musical colleague with whom I crossed paths a couple years back who was schizophrenic. He was a house guest, and it was fascinating (and painful) to experience firsthand how his disease was larger than anything else in his life. I have numerous friends who happen to be psychiatrists and counselors, and asked them to help me to better understand this person's condition. Could I collaborate with him and continue to take good care of myself and my family? They noted that 1/3rd of schizophrenics get better (with medication), 1/3rd get worse, and 1/3rd stay the same. The bottom line was that the disease tended to always be the largest, most defining aspect of their life.Soooo, after careful consideration and discussion with this person (and my amazing community of wonderful friends), I decided that the best way I could take care of myself was to discontinue associating with the person. A part of me felt great compassion and affection for him, while another part knew that I couldn't take good care of my life and my work if I fell into someone else's "hurricane". For what it's worth, that was my small experience with the world of someone whose reality is quite different . . . I'm not sure what might work for you and your wife, if moving away at this time isn't an option -- (I've read books about psychiatrists who practice Neuo-Linguistic Programming -- where instead of trying to talk a patient out of their view of reality, they work within it. For example, one patient believed that voices were coming out of the electrical outlets telling him to do things that were causing problems for others. So rather than try to convince the patient these voices weren't real, instead the psychiatrist hooked up a small speaker into an outlet telling this patient to do some things that would not cause problems for others. Hmmm, maybe you could hook a little speaker up to your neighbor's house saying "time to meditate in silence. Don't make noise. Silence . . . silence . . . "Who knows? Anything is possible.)Anyway, sorry to hear of the challenge facing you.I will hold the intention of your finding an effective way to deal with this situation that will enable you to take good care of yourselves while finding compassion for the pain that seems to be holding your neighbor hostage.Hugs and best wishes,Suz

[ernstinen]

Aug 31, 2008, 8:57pm, suzdoyle wrote:Man, oh, man, Ern -- what a challenging situation. Mental illness is a tricky thing to deal with, because the person's reality feels so real to them, and they are often unaware that what feels normal to them is often very dramatic and spills over into the lives of others . . . often their pain is so big that that is all they can see and feel (hence the inability to think about how they impact others).So how do you take care of yourselves when you have a hurricane living next door? Thanks, Suz --- It's been VERY hard. Our consulting psychiatrist has read his emails and has said he's a Paranoid Psychotic. BUT, he believes the man is not schizophrenic, even though he has audio hallucinations, because he can basically function in society (to a point).I don't know what to do. We've been dealing with this for almost 4 years. --- We're suing this poor soul and his wife, but just found out that the case won't come up before a judge until March, 2009. In the meantime, we're trying to get another restraining order, i.e. a preliminary injunction which I hope will be made permanent.********************************************Anyway, back to the topic: "Bali Hai" from "South Pacific" is going now through me pea-brain! AAAAUUUGH! Ern

[Mark Kaufman]

You know, when I write a song, that @#$% just goes on and on and on in my head, in non-stop play mode. I've come to sort of like that, because as it replays over and over, I find myself modifying little bits, getting new ideas, then translating them into the final write. A lot of pro songwriters, according to Jimmy Webb, are afraid to go places while they have a song "simmering" in their heads...they're afraid the whole thing will come crashing down as soon as they hear something like "Uptown Girl"...a song like that will just invade your brain and take over like a computer virus, game over."...she's been livin' in her uptown world..."

[tedsingingfox]

"BALI HI"!?!?!?!?!?!?!?I guess I shouldn't complain about an old Cowsills tune, then...

[sgs4u]

Sept 1, 2008, 10:45am, tedsingingfox wrote:"BALI HI"!?!?!?!?!?!?!?I guess I shouldn't complain about an old Cowsills tune, then... Size 4 or 5 would be fine Ted. And Billy Cowsill was a friend of mine. Another cool dead guy now.

[jchitty]

I dread the Christmas season at times 'coz they always play, "Grandma Got Run Over By a Reindeer" and I know that song is gonna be stuck in my head for days on end.

[ernstinen]

OH NO ---- I turned on the UCLA football game vs. Tennessee, and the announcers reminded me of a song.When I was about to move to L.A., it was "Urban Cowboy" time, and I HAD to learn country music to make a buck.Well, my friend asked me if I'd ever heard "Rocky Top." I said "No." So he taught it to me. I played it over and over during solo gigs to make some $$.I TRIED to forget "Rocky Top," but tonight it seems that it is the Volunteers' THEME SONG! --- God, please help me! NOW it's "Rocky Top" that is stuck in my head!AAAAUURGHHH!Help! Ern

[crs7string]

Ern,About ten or eleven years ago was playing in a weekend warrior wedding band in Nashville, Tn.Vanderbilt University is in Nashville and is a long time rival of UT.If we played a wedding for a Vandy family, part of the deal was we would not and could not play "Rocky Top"The reverse was true for the UT grad bride and groom.And to think people think that writing music for film and tv entails compromises!!! Chuck